It's all a matter of attitude.
Some people, perhaps most, need to sort their wild oats and suffer a tragedy before seeing the light and feeling a calling to go the other way and grow up.
There's this movie called South Central.
Where a man got with a gang to get rich. But he had to kill and got busted for it and did time in prison. And while he was in prison he found out that his gang leader was putting his son up to steal for him, which led to the boy being shot. And there was a lifer inside who helped him to get in touch with his better side. And he then made parole and left prison with a goal to reunite with his son and take him away from that path.
He eventually saw the falsity in it. There's a togetherness in darkness that's false. So when it comes to down to real togetherness there never is any, and precisely why he was doing time in prison protecting his gang by not telling on them and they in return pimped his child out as a criminal, and had the audacity to try to claim ownership of his son after he got out. People who don't believe in goodness stays in the life, and those who do get out. The movie had a happy ending because the man stayed true to the change in himself and he went and saved his son from a life in jail or cut short in senseless murder.
No matter where you go in life or with who, the togetherness in darkness is never real.
They'll have your back on bulls***, but when it comes to anything real there will surely be crickets.