the lives of these 2 young women..Esperanza is 27 and Monae is 26..were very much like our victim on the wasted thread. their material circumstances growing up were strapped but there was always someone there for them.
Janelle's parents, poor or not encouraged her. Esperanza's mother..a single mother.. took care of her child and guided her as best she could.
no matter what happens there's got to be someone there for children..no matter what.
children don't know and desperation is a terrible thing for them to deal with. no chance, no hope.... breaks spirit and the mind. there is nothing more wicked than the feeling when you are young of no opportunity, no chance..especially if you have brains, skills, the makings.
when you have the ability to have a sense of what has happened to you..especially if someone did you wrong, took away your chance at life it is even worse. its is bad enough when it is your own intransigence caused it. but you can lean and overcome your mistake if your people, the society gave you a chance.
but no one gave that young woman a chance after her mistake.
from what I have read had that young woman got a bit of sincere guidance, a bit of support, she would have done the rest.
she clearly had ability and drive. like these young women here, she could have have reached heights on her own. she did not need no dam jackass, fool of a man to be with, looking for support, in need of a bit of human warmth
that's where the sincere guidance could have been decisive: teaching her to be totally self -reliant, looking out for herself, dependent on herself for all she needed..teaching her about how people are and to be open and learning all the time in her own best interest.
knowing and sincere guidance could have taught here that she was free to have boyfriends, to get what she needed when she needed it... but not necessarily to park herself with just any bozo..until she was certain about him, that he was the right man..all the while building herself.
she had to be tauhg that her well-bing must depend on no one at all...and that no man must be a threat to what she had achieved. that if he wasa threat, he was not the one for her.
that girls' life was indeed a wasted life and the major cause and factor was her father. he too must be forgiven..but we ant ignore the fact had he not tossed out his daughter, had he used her mistake to correct what may have been a poor attitude that led to the trouble in the first place...and set her up for better.. all would have been well.
that girl had something to offer. she would have made something of herself had she been forgiven and guided, supported.
it is in the end, the society that is responsible, our culture, that teaches us all not to forgive, not see cause and effect in human behavior, so that we can correct behavior and the conditions which produce undesirable behavior, thereby constantly improving ourselves.
it is those jackass commandments that is the problem..that s*** that Moses brought down from the mountain that people believe are the words of god, and so follow them slavishly, for thousands of years now..from camel, horse and buggy to space travel.
now that we make space ships shouldn't that have told us something about those skunthole commandments and all such like that in the world.
sex us nice, sex is wonderful, sex is driven, obsessional, made so by nature.
if nature is a force that goes on through its creations I would bet any money that all means by which natural forms go on, are obsessional, must be done by the forms on pain of dysfunction and likely death...that forms fight and battle to actualize these means in order for things to go on.
I expect nothing different from nature in that regard..that it would and have made all its forms, prisoners of their means of reproduction.
that is why human sexuality is obsessional. that is why feline males males for example, murder the cubs of other males when they find them so that the female, the mother of those cubs can go on heat again, and so the murdering male can have an opportunity to pass on his genes as well.
human sexuality often enough involves murder and violence likewise. if humans come to know all we know about our sexuality..not simply being able to describe the various bodily sex organs... but the total context of sexuality... then we can deal with it better. we can preempt youthful behavior that may complicate lives, in many positive ways.
it is not enough to teach children about the biology of sex but the physiology of it, the sociology of sexuality as well.
because of the way nature has made sex is we must train our young better..in the truth. and even when we do we must take such development as n unwanted teen pregnancy in full stride
