[quote author=raisa link=topic=95158.msg611858#msg611858 date=1421534752]
[color=rgb(25, 25, 25)]My mom stayed with two physically abusive men for years. Typically, the abuser strips away the victim's self esteem and makes her feel like she is the one who is doing something wrong[/color]
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I'm sorry to hear that....
My mom was different. She didn't take any kind of maltreatment from men. And she had to correct my father who in their early days thought that he could have her as a punching bag. She set him straight for life.
[quote author=raisa link=topic=95158.msg611871#msg611871 date=1421535418]
my father's abuse has affected my relationship with my husband if he seems angry at something i clam up fearing the worst.
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